6 Tips to Make the First Day of Preschool Less Stressful
These easy-to-follow tips will make the first day of preschool easier for your child (and yourself!), and make it a happy one.
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The first day of preschool is an exciting milestone in your child’s life. Your child is embarking on a journey that will lead him on many roads of discovery and learning. As wonderful as this new experience may be, this transition can also be quite stressful for the young child (and for you, I’m sure!)
I remember my own experiences when I took my children to childcare. My husband and I always worked full-time, and we had no choice. On the first day of preschool, both my daughters took off running and said bye to me, waving their hands behind their backs (and they are eight years apart). As you can imagine, I was shocked, sad, and proud at the same time.
My son, who is my middle child, was different. He was crying non-stop for the first week. It broke my heart!
I’m just using my example to tell you it’s not easy, but you can do it. I also have to say that it helps a lot when you prepare them for preschool with straightforward practices and routines that you can do at home daily.
At times, new situations and changes can be unsettling (even scary) for all of us. For many children, the first day of preschool may also be their first experience of separation from parents or caregivers. It is common for even the most outgoing children to be anxious on the first day of preschool because they don’t know what to expect or what will happen to them.
It is your responsibility, as well as the childcare providers, to make this first day (and the following days) of preschool a good experience.
What Can You Do to Help Your Child on the First Day of Preschool?
I offer six easy-to-follow tips to help make the first day of preschool less stressful for your child (and you). These will make your child’s transition to this new experience an easy and happy one (for both of you).
Tip #1: Prepare your child for the new school experience.
Explain to your child what to expect. It doesn’t matter how small your child is. Talk to your child in a language he will understand and answer all his questions directly and honestly. Don’t rush through the morning. Give yourself enough time for your child and still be on time at work.
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Tip #2: Convey a positive attitude.
Young children are aware of your feelings (Yup! Even babies). Your enthusiasm will assure your child that preschool can be a fun and exciting place. So, don’t forget to smile (even when you are crying inside!). Your child will pick up your energy, and a positive one will help him cope with this first day of preschool.
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Tip #3: Establish a routine.
It is very important for young children to have a routine at home and school. It provides them with security and a clear vision of “what comes next.” That’s why establishing a routine involving both the night before a school day and morning preparation is so important. Rituals and routines add predictability and are comforting in unfamiliar situations.
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Tip #4: Bring something from home.
Every child, especially a very young one, has a special item that he is very attached to. Bringing it to preschool, especially the first day, is acceptable and often reassuring in helping your child with the initial adjustment to school. This item may be a treasured blanket, a stuffed animal, or even a photo from home.
Tip #5: Clearly state where you will be.
Indeed, small children do not understand the concept of time. Nevertheless, they do know that you have to go to work. When you clearly state to your child where you will be and when you will return, that gives your child peace of mind that you will not leave him behind and will be back to pick him up. Discussing what will happen when you are reunited may also be helpful.
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Tip #6: Maintain a clear goodbye routine.
A straightforward goodbye routine may include warning your child that you are leaving in 3 minutes, a kiss and hug, or a wave from the window. It is essential to follow through once you tell your child you are leaving. Extending the goodbye with, “Okay, just one more kiss, and then I have to go,” tends to heighten anxiety rather than relieve it. Avoid sneaking out, as this seems to encourage children to become less trusting and make the second day of preschool even harder.
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Just remember, it’s normal for kids to cry inconsolably (unless they act like my daughters and say “bye-bye” without even looking at you). But even if your child is screaming and howling and clinging to you with his nails, chances are that he’ll be just fine five minutes after you leave.
If you feel your child is having difficulty adjusting, don’t panic. Childcare workers are well trained in these situations and will help him relax (I promise!). So ask your child’s teacher for help, and don’t be surprised if your child runs to his teacher without saying goodbye to you!
Conclusion
It is not easy for a parent to enroll her child in preschool, especially if he has never been in childcare. I get it! It is a hard decision, but I hope you feel comfort in knowing that a preschooler is at an age where he needs to be, where he can start learning his social skills, letters, numbers, and all these different activities that are specially designed to help him develop all the necessary skills to prepare him for kindergarten.
Even for the most skilled and dedicated parents, it isn’t easy to accomplish this at home. Believe me. I know. I had two degrees in Education before I had my children, and I had to enroll them in preschool because it was hard for me to put on my teaching hat when I just wanted to cuddle with my kiddos. They started at preschool when they were only a year and a half old.
In my youngest daughter’s case, I was also her VPK teacher. Oh my gosh! That was challenging, and I was already teaching elementary and middle school children for years before that!
Try not to be sad or stressed that first day at preschool because your child will feed on your energy, and it is going to be very hard for him, too. Consider these tips that I just gave you, and breathe! I promise that everything will be okay. Good luck!
Be happy, safe, and creative. I wish you well!
Love,
P.S. I hope you find this post helpful. If you did, please share it. Also, let me know how that first day at preschool went and if the tips I gave you worked for you or if you did something different. I am very interested in what you have to say, and I would love to update this post with your tip. Thank you!
